"LOVER: Lover was created when I was five years old and received 'her' name because the hired hand, Tony, who molested me called me 'Lover' sometimes. She really believed that Tony DID love her and felt extremely sad and abandoned when he left. She was confused about love in every way. When the therapist told Lover that what Tony did to her wasn't really love, her heartbreaking answer was, 'But that means nobody loved me!'
"PRETEND POLLY: Polly was another five-year-old. She was a very strong part, and had to be. Polly claimed that when things were too bad, they couldn't be real and were therefore just pretend. My therapist, at one point, encouraged 'her' to talk with all of the other parts of me to see what each one believed. The other parts did a good job of 'bursting her bubble,' making it harder for Polly to pretend, creating a terrible experience for Polly.
"NUMB NANCY: Nancy, yet another five-year-old, 're-emerged' when I was an adult because of traumas I experienced as an adult. She was a very strong part and was able to make me numb to both physical and emotional trauma.
"LITTLE ONE: My five-year-old parts included one simply called, 'Little One.' She was very confused about the role of men and women. Little One hated being a girl because she thought girls were always being 'used.' She longed to be taken care of and thought if she made me sick, then somebody would watch her more carefully and nobody could hurt her.
"Little One was full of a lot of sad emotions and was possibly a no-name dumping ground for the emotions of other parts, including the emotions that were blocked by Numb Nancy or Pretend Polly.'" (My Tears Fall Inside, selections from pages 57-59)
Feel free to ask me any questions or to make comments. Don't worry. I will let you know if there is any question I don't want to answer. :-)