“By that time [May 1994] my relationship with Dixie had changed, so from that point on, my feelings became more and more blocked. I had also quit going to therapy the previous month. . . From then on, if I cried at all, it was only a tear or two. The result of locking all of the tears inside meant that my body's aches and pains increased since there was no release of the emotional pain. I failed to realize that my concern about appearing ‘un-healed’ was actually one of the factors preventing my healing. If I would just let my child parts express themselves, in all their painful desperateness, then I could potentially get to a more stable emotional state. It seemed very counter-intuitive, but the more I allowed expression of these intense painful emotions the more ‘healthy’ I would be.” (The Silent Cries, page 21)
It is just fine to lock tears inside on occasion. However, when it becomes a habit and the painful emotions remained trapped inside for long periods of time, eventually the body begins to suffer. Whenever I see someone who is totally numb to feelings, I know that person is not fine! I recognize the behavior and understand that this means there is huge sadness locked inside. I hope to be observant and sensitive to the feelings of those around me, and reach out to others in pain whenever possible.
It is just fine to lock tears inside on occasion. However, when it becomes a habit and the painful emotions remained trapped inside for long periods of time, eventually the body begins to suffer. Whenever I see someone who is totally numb to feelings, I know that person is not fine! I recognize the behavior and understand that this means there is huge sadness locked inside. I hope to be observant and sensitive to the feelings of those around me, and reach out to others in pain whenever possible.
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